Women Holding It All

“I got it!”

Is this your go-to way of living?

You can make it to work, live on little sleep, take care of children if you’ve got them, and are available to help on a moment’s notice. Because you’ve got it. You can work through a migraine, take care of an elderly parent, check in on your friends, keep up with all the podcasts, wash your items to be recycled and remember all the birthdays and anniversaries. Because you’ve got it.

Except that maybe “I got it” has got you feeling worn out, with little time or energy for real connection with your partner, loved ones, or yourself, and you are just some pretzel-knotted-version of you.
And still you hold up the worlds of all those you care for.
You sigh. A lot.

And it’s not like you don’t know. You do. You know about self-care and breathing and taking walks and setting boundaries and sometimes you do those things. But it’s not happening in
a way that is enough.

You handle so much. You handle significant changes in your body and your mood throughout your entire life. Your brain can work on multiple things at once. There is sexism and other kinds of oppression. There are expectations for who and how you are supposed to be, what you are supposed to do, how you are supposed to do it, and with what kind of attitude.

You need a space.

How about “Not It!” instead of “I got it”?

Here are some of the topics with which I assist women:

  • Young Adulting

  • Infertility, Pregnancy, Post-partum

  • Parenting (see below for group)

  • Dating

  • Relationship concerns

  • Creating space for you

  • Grief

  • Divorce

  • Helping too much

  • Inter-generational care giving

  • Raising kids of color

  • Mood

  • Trauma

  • Menopause

  • Finding a way to get your needs met

  • Rage quitting

  • Making your 85 year old self happy

  • Work Place Stress

  • Over-functioning

This is you, solidly saying, “Not It!”

    • Wash your face in the morning and evening. Or better yet, take a shower.

    • Go outside.

    • Eat something that tastes good.

    • Ponder this: “For fast-acting relief, try slowing down.” - Lily Tomlin

    • If you have a moment to yourself, do not clean, organize, or coordinate others’ lives.

    • Don’t be “It.”

  • Are your eight octopus arms holding all the things while you manage your children’s everything?

    This is in the works. If you’re interested, please let me know and I will give you more details. Weekly group to support each other in momhood, relationships, and holding up all the worlds you do.